Relationship for relationships sake.

01 March 2010, 15:24

What a beautiful Monday. I've had a lovely morning walking on the beach with my mam and judy, our 7 year old lab. The Irish sea was not its usual green hue of toxic surf but rather a lovely bright blue, i nearly though i was on the med!
We were talking about marriage's gone wrong for people close to us and when i thought about it there are way more people i know that are in relationships for all the wrong reasons, than people in 'great' relationships.
I think its sad how much Irish people settle for whats there instead of holding out for someone that truly deserves you. One person i know had to marry cos he had made his girlfriend pregnant. Now years and years later he wakes up beside a woman he doesn't like to save face from a failed marriage.
I know another girl who stayed with her husband even though he abused her physically and mentally for years because 'she has nowhere to go'. Me i'd grab my kids and hit up the nearest friend/relative and figure it out as i went.

I could go on and on all day about the couples i know like that.
Me, i'd rather be single for the next ten years than stay in the wrong relationship, no matter what the reasons, right or wrong. Is there even a right reason to stay in a wrong relationship?
I'm so glad i don't need to be in a relationship for relationships sake...

MalteseCross1 2 March 2010 @ 01:54 A reason to stay in a relationship when its wrong.?

Fit_gurl 2 March 2010 @ 22:49 I see a question mark (?) but i don't see the question. Care to explain?

Sin_e 3 March 2010 @ 15:10 “Is there even a right reason to stay in a wrong relationship?” I don’t necessary think there is ‘right reason” to stay in a wrong relationship but there are many “reason” why people do i.e. Fear (Physical, emotional), Fear of change, lack of confidence, financial etc. I do think that it has got better for someone to change their situation than it was years ago e.g. divorce, people more independent (financial etc,), more support system available etc. I think the hardest part is for someone to have the emotional/personal courage to do something about it. I think that’s an internal thing and a hard one to break out of…. but not impossible!

Fit_gurl 3 March 2010 @ 17:56 It definitely has got better thank god. Interestingly i was reading last week that there is a huge amount of couples now going to counselling because while they want to seperate/divorce, they cannot because of the economic climate. How terrible would that be. Hooray for change though! Everyone deserves true happiness!

Sin_e 4 March 2010 @ 09:16 Yeah…I heard the same regarding counselling on the radio. I think the economic climate will bring a lot to the surface too. I’m sure a lot of cracks will appear in some relationships now that the “good times” are gone! But as strange as this may sound …that maybe a good thing for some in the long run! Change is good though; we couldn’t go back to “you made your bed now lie in it” days! Hopefully they all will find happiness!

Newbeg 25 March 2010 @ 20:41 Having gone through a breakup of a very long relationship I would agree with alot of what your saying Ollie. The one thing I think is a shame is that people think the grass is always greener. Now don't get me wrong I would not tolerate any type of abuse at all. I just think that so many people are looking for the excitement that comes with a new relationship/fling and too many fail to see that with the right relationship it just gets better and better if your prepared to work at it. Give me a woman anytime who knows every inch of my skin, can read my emotions and finishes my sentences for me. In relation to marraige too many sign up for it and don't really know the true meaning of commitment and more importantly loyalty and support. Good time people should stay single because bad and tough times are inevitable.